Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Nosy, Judgemental Grandmas

Tonight I took the kids to a little buddy's birthday party. Halfway into the party most of the kids disappered into the playroom. I guess I missed the constant tug and pull of little hands because I decided to go check on mine. Just as I banked the corner, I heard Eddie start to wail. He tripped over a toy and wanted to make sure everyone knew. After comforting him, I decided to rejoin the adults.

Midstride, the birthday boy's grandmother stopped me. The conversation went as follows:

Grandmother: Was that your child?
Me: Yes, he...[I was about to tell her he fell but was abruptly cut off.]
Grandmother: What did you do to him? I hope you didn't spank him! [Noticed the run-on sentences?]
Me: No, he just fell over a toy.
Grandmother: Oh, because there will be no spanking tonight.
Me: Oh, ok. [confused and bewildered]

It didn't occur to me until after I walked off that she was scolding me because she thought I spanked MY son. Not that it's any of her business, but I do spank my kids on their hands as a last resort. I don't go around telling people who don't believe in spanking that what their misbehaved kid needs is a spank. I'm not even sure how she thought it was her business to get involved if I did.

Ultimately every parent has to decide the best course of discipline for their child. And yes, some of us will decide to spank. If the child is not being harmed (e.g violent beatings) we should respect other parents' decisions and butt out.

Gross, Icky Feet

The kids and I had a lovely morning at McDonald's. I met with a friend of mine and her mom, and the kids had fun on the indoor playground. We were only there for an hour, but you couldn't tell by their socks, which were throughly disgusting! This is how they looked after soaking in a bleach/water solution for half a day.

I don't know if or how McDonald's cleans their playground, but clearly whatever they are doing is not effective. I couldn't wait to bring the kids home and disinfect them. Don't think I'm taking the kids back there for a long, long time.

Let's hope they do a better job cleaning the kitchen.

Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Together Forever

Before I even became a Mom, I dreamt of up snuggling up on the sofa with my children watching the classic Christmas cartoons e.g. Rudolph the Red Nose Reindeer, Frosty the Snowman, Frosty Returns, etc., I enjoyed as a child. And last weekend, we did just that. What an enjoyable experience!

In the middle of Rudolph, my nearly four-year old son grew afraid of the Abominable Snowman. My two-year old daughter began patting him on the back whispering, "It's ok. Don't be scared.". My son then lay his head in her lap and she began stroking his head and continued to soothe him. It was beautiful. The DH and I just kept back and watched this scene unfold. We were speechless.

With two kids under the age of four, I witness my share of fights, sibling rivalry and meltdowns. But I also witness an equal share of protective behavior, compassion and love. Sometimes all in the same day. Truly, never a dull moment.

I don't know if anything can top this as a Christmas present.

Sunday, December 11, 2011

Proud Mama

My two-year old daughter amazes me. She is a child who will thrive in any situation. She possesses a confidence that sometimes I still don't have, and refuses to be intimidated.

One example that comes to mind is her performance in the Gymnastics Holiday Program last weekend. Since no one showed up from her Parent & Tot class (essentially free play), she was allowed to perform with her brother in his three-year old class. With only one half-hour rehearsal under her belt, she outshone kids who has been training all semester. It was truly amazing and I could not have been more proud.

My son, who is very bashful, is also coming into his own. Ever talented, he grows a little braver and a little more independent everyday. He is the son every mother longs for.

I am so thankful for my family, especially the two most important people in my life, my little ones. Even on the worst behaved, most sleep-deprived day, I wouldn't give up a moment!