The DH got up with the dog at 6 and the kids sometime after that to let me sleep in. At 8:45, amidst the deepest sleep, they barged in with breakfast-in-bed and cards and presents. I was especially excited to see Blinky's homemade card that she made me wait four days to see. Then we called the grandma's to wish them a Happy Mother's Day and lounged on the sofa to watch a movie.
Sometime after 11 I meandered into the kitchen to start cooking. Since we'd had Bahamian food the week before in Atlanta, I still had a craving for it and decided to go big or go home. I made kidney beans and rice, jerk chicken, corn on the cob and spinach salad. It was so yummy and I didn't even have to fight with the kids to eat it or mash their beans. Score!
After lunch, there was a blur of baseball in the backyard, the obligatory laundry piles, an episode of the Amazing Race and a shower. I felt more rested than I have in years. It was divine and just what this tired, achy body needed.
Later, while browsing blogs, I came across this sentimental post from Dixie Delights, which I could not have written more eloquently:
"Speaking of regrets, I was thinking this morning in the shower how I have lots of regrets on things I’ve spent money on … that dress that never fit right, the shoes that hurt my feet, the expensive bag I never use, the piece of furniture that wasn’t my style, the fabric that didn’t lay right, and the list goes on and on and on. But, you know, I have never once ever regretted the trips, the outrageously over priced frozen yogurt with all the toppings, staying up late to make an entire breakfast… from a fake ELF, the rollercoaster rides, ice cream dates, late night movie nights or after-school forget-the-homework lets-play-Clue days. I don’t regret essentially committing career suicide by taking a part time position that has been tenuous at best for the last decade AFTER working tirelessly for years to get the engineering degree and working my way up to the job. I don’t regret choosing the smaller, older, less expensive home in a neighborhood with a good public school. I don’t regret buying a used car and driving it in the ground … three times in my lifetime. And, most of all, I don’t regret the quality time, the family time, the adventures and the memories."
I too have an advanced degree but choose to work part-time to better raise our little ones. The DH and I also buy used cars and live in a smaller, less expensive home to make the vacations possible. While I forget to decorate or somehow commemorate every holiday, I make sure to make a big deal out of birthdays, academic achievements and even being nice to each other. Life is not always easy, and I am far from perfect but I wouldn't change a thing.
Happy Mother's Day to all of you! It was certainly a happy day for me.